Wonderful. Every bit of progress is positive. You argue so well for a view that a lot of feminists would balk at. Women have got to keep reporting. I'm showing this to my daughter.
Thank you for reading and I'm heartened to learn you find this of value to your daughter. How old is she? I've got another one coming shortly on how women don't need to tolerate abuse, thanks to lessons from my feminist-in-denial mother (now 89). I take a 'power feminist' view rather than a 'victim feminist' one - I identify with personal power and personal responsibility, rather than what I see as a self-infantilizing view from some feminists who come from a base of helplessness and chronic vulnerability. We ARE the weaker sex in some regards and we don't have as much power as we should, but we're not going to get it if we can't hold ourselves to the same standards to which we hold men, and I want women to understand that they can *take back their power*, a lesson I have to remind *myself* of every day.
Even men need to do this - in a healthy, non-misogynist way - in order to challenge victim feminism and know where their responsibility for women's welfare stops with them, and starts with women. Hoping to pull some of them back from the 'men's rights' nuts and maybe create a Men's Rights 2.0 that is more along the lines of what I hold for women - being accountable to yourself, helping others, but not taking shit from those who would *only* blame your tribe for their troubles.
Wonderful. Every bit of progress is positive. You argue so well for a view that a lot of feminists would balk at. Women have got to keep reporting. I'm showing this to my daughter.
Thank you for reading and I'm heartened to learn you find this of value to your daughter. How old is she? I've got another one coming shortly on how women don't need to tolerate abuse, thanks to lessons from my feminist-in-denial mother (now 89). I take a 'power feminist' view rather than a 'victim feminist' one - I identify with personal power and personal responsibility, rather than what I see as a self-infantilizing view from some feminists who come from a base of helplessness and chronic vulnerability. We ARE the weaker sex in some regards and we don't have as much power as we should, but we're not going to get it if we can't hold ourselves to the same standards to which we hold men, and I want women to understand that they can *take back their power*, a lesson I have to remind *myself* of every day.
Even men need to do this - in a healthy, non-misogynist way - in order to challenge victim feminism and know where their responsibility for women's welfare stops with them, and starts with women. Hoping to pull some of them back from the 'men's rights' nuts and maybe create a Men's Rights 2.0 that is more along the lines of what I hold for women - being accountable to yourself, helping others, but not taking shit from those who would *only* blame your tribe for their troubles.
My daughter is 35 and she was raped at age 28. She did not report the man. She also did not tell me about the assault for many years afterwards.
OMG I thought she was still a kid. I'm so sorry to hear this.