I know so many women who were sexually abused as teenagers in the 1970s. One of my friends got so sick of it that she moved into my house for a while. Her mother came to get her. I confronted the woman and she denied the abuse outright. She said, “My husband is a good man. There is nothing wrong with him.” She died of cancer a few years later. I often wonder if her illness was brought on by guilt. She had to know what was going on but refused to face it. A cowardly choice to choose your husband over your daughter.
I got so angry when I was a kid at how many girls were being sexually abused. The mothers were in fucking denial and for that may they die with the guilt. This is the sort of shitty wussiness we have GOT to dig out of our brains. A few years ago when I called the police on a neighbor I thought was getting hit, at one point I challenged the guy by opening up the door as far as the chain lock permitted and yelled at him to get the fuck out of here because I'd called the police and they were on their way. A friend I told about it said, "But you could have gotten hurt!" And this was the woman who told me to call the cops if I ever thought a woman was in danger because she wished it would happen so many times when her ex was threatening her! And okay, she never told me to go that extra mile but I thought, "Well, whose responsibility IS it when there's no man around and anyway, why should the men always be expected to put themselves in danger?" How feminist are we really, when the shit goes down?
I'm not saying everyone should have did what I did, but I put my money where my mouth is, and that was just one little spat. How the fuck you can ignore abuse of your own children and not do anything about it is what makes me thinks some women are more equal than others...<glowers>
I know so many women who were sexually abused as teenagers in the 1970s. One of my friends got so sick of it that she moved into my house for a while. Her mother came to get her. I confronted the woman and she denied the abuse outright. She said, “My husband is a good man. There is nothing wrong with him.” She died of cancer a few years later. I often wonder if her illness was brought on by guilt. She had to know what was going on but refused to face it. A cowardly choice to choose your husband over your daughter.
I got so angry when I was a kid at how many girls were being sexually abused. The mothers were in fucking denial and for that may they die with the guilt. This is the sort of shitty wussiness we have GOT to dig out of our brains. A few years ago when I called the police on a neighbor I thought was getting hit, at one point I challenged the guy by opening up the door as far as the chain lock permitted and yelled at him to get the fuck out of here because I'd called the police and they were on their way. A friend I told about it said, "But you could have gotten hurt!" And this was the woman who told me to call the cops if I ever thought a woman was in danger because she wished it would happen so many times when her ex was threatening her! And okay, she never told me to go that extra mile but I thought, "Well, whose responsibility IS it when there's no man around and anyway, why should the men always be expected to put themselves in danger?" How feminist are we really, when the shit goes down?
I'm not saying everyone should have did what I did, but I put my money where my mouth is, and that was just one little spat. How the fuck you can ignore abuse of your own children and not do anything about it is what makes me thinks some women are more equal than others...<glowers>
Good for you! We have to start doing things like this as a matter of course.